“I was devastated when the hospital I worked in replaced me with another professional. I needed the pay check, missed the regular income and was angry for losing my job without giving prior notice. After the initial shock was over, I realized I have to accept I lost the job because I had a drinking problem and that I should address the issue before finding a place that values my services.”
Sandhya Jain-Nutritionist, New Delhi, India
Alice did not accept the fact that her husband has moved out of her home and is never going to come back. She spent 6 months waiting for him to come back and wallowed in self pity. During this time her finances took a nose dive, her health deteriorated and her friends left her because they did not want to listen to her constant whining.
She blamed her husband and everybody else for her misery until the day she accepted that Jim is never going to come back and it is time she picked up her life.
When something bad happens many of us find it hard to accept that a parent died or I have lost my job or my girlfriend found someone better to spend her life with. You can continue being miserable until you accept a problem. Accept you have done everything to keep a job or making your husband happy and if a person or a position in an organization is no longer available you will now make the best out of the situation.
Once you accept the problem it becomes easier for your mind to go into a problem solving mode and instead of finding reasons that why something bad happened your mind will begin to find solutions to your problem.
Healing begins and your mind is diverted towards something constructive.