Memories of your ex-girlfriend are nothing but a collection of sound, various pictures and a range of feelings associated with these factors. If your subconscious mind learns to adjust the intensity of these pictures, sounds and feelings, very soon you will be in control of the reactions to these memories that either bother you or make to ecstatic with joy.
Minimizing Impact of a Memory
Let us see how we can minimize the impact of memory of your girlfriend. Start by choosing one memory that bothers you occasionally.
Silent observation of a memory scene
Once you have decided to change a particular memory try remembering the sounds of people, place, the weather and anything else that is associated with the memory you are trying to get rid of. Now imagine that entire memory in a picture frame, step out of that picture frame and observe.
Softening the blow of impact
If the memory you want to change, includes people speaking loudly, try to visualize the picture with people speaking in a funny voice. You can also choose for them to say something very stupid and in a very low voice.
Now imagine this memory slowly flying away in the sky and finally fading away. Once this exercise is complete thank God that this memory is finally over and you will never be bothered by it again. Use this exercise for more such memories and move on with your life quickly.