According to studies, verbal abuse that causes emotional distress is often hard to detect. This is especially true when it is a fairly new relationship. However, as the relationship continues it becomes even more challenging to leave the partner. Victims of Abuse have to recognize that there are options ahead of them, and make choices that allow them to live life better, away from the abuse.
Regain Loss of Esteem with Self care
One of the first things that happen to a victim of abuse is the loss of esteem. Therefore, one of the important things that you need to do, when you decide to leave the abusive relationship, is to build up self esteem. This is possible through self-care. The end result of short or long term emotional abuse is the feeling of being worthless and unlovable. Therefore, experts recommend that the victim has to first learn the techniques of feeling worthiness. This is possible only with self-care
Regain Loss of Control over your life with Self care
One of the other things that an individual, in an abusive and closed relationship, experiences is the loss of control over their life. In order to find the strength from within to leave the abuser, the victim will have to relearn the art of being control of their life. Once her self-esteem is restored, through self-care it is just a few weeks before she is able to re-control her life and take decisions that are for her own good.
What does Self-care actually mean?
For a person in a troubled and emotionally challenging relationship the lines of self-care regimes are blurred. Catering to the needs and fancies of the abusive partner becomes the norm, ignoring personal needs.
One of the easiest and simplest techniques which will set you on the path to regaining your self-worth is going out and meeting new people or rediscovering activities which you liked in the past. Additionally, starting an exercise program will become a launch-pad to a better you. The bottom line is to find and do things, indulge in activities that make you happy.
The actual process of self-care begins when the victim is able to recognize that her own ideas, decisions, likes and dislikes are as important as that of the dominant partner in the closed relationship. As soon as the victim arrives at a stage where she can recognize the imbalances in the relationship, then she will find all the motivation to get out of the abusive relationship.
Ending the Relationship entirely
One of the important facts of an imbalanced relationship is the fact that the relationship follows several cycles. After an intense stage of strong abuse, a phase of contrition follows. Usually the abuser when passing through the contrition phase, showers affection, gestures, gifts and more to prolong the partner’s presence in the relationship.
However, you as the victim have to draw on all your strength not to fall back into the vicious cycle of abuse, by ending the relationship entirely. Abusive relationships are not the healthiest and always the best ways to live life. Make your choices and enjoy happiness!