We all suffer from bouts of anger from time to time. Be it our office colleagues trying to show us down in various meetings or our friend borrowing our new car for a small errand and not returning it for two days. There is always going to be some trigger that can flare you up in a matter of seconds.
If you are one of the many who want to change their habits and behavior, try using SWISH, a very useful NLP technique that will help you change your habit that is driven by a trigger.
Follow these steps to cure the unwanted behavior, in this case anger management.
Write down on a piece of paper the trigger that sets in motion the unwanted behavior. Choose one trigger and build an imaginary frame around it like you do with a picture.
By this time you must be feeling anger well inside you. Attempt to change the state of your mind by thinking about something pleasant.
Once you have reached a calm and happy state of mind think about a picture of a happy and relaxed ‘you.’ Now proceed to have a frame around your picture.
The next step involves you recalling the cue picture that triggers angry feelings inside you. Now go back in your mind and think about the picture of desired outcome, which in this case is a smiling “you”. Shrink the desired outcome picture into a very small dot and place it gently to the bottom left corner of the bigger picture frame.
The next step is interesting and very liberating. Use the sound “SWISH” in your mind or saying out aloud, and expand the small dot into the big picture so that the happy desired outcome completely covers the negative emotions picture.
Repeat the ‘SWISH’ process several times till your subconscious mind is able to automatically replace the thought of a happy and peaceful you as soon as a trigger actually appears in your real life.