“It was a huge blow to my ego when my girlfriend left me and could not take the insult. My self esteem also took a beating and I stopped socializing. I began to spend most time alone until my friend told me to let go of the resentment I was carrying for my ex and start living my life again. It was not until I let go of my past I began to live a normal life again. Letting go is very important.”
Amol Anand- Student, Gujarat, India
Letting go of someone you love can be difficult especially if you have invested a lot of emotions in the person. How can you say good bye to a person or an object, say a house, you thought you will spend a lot of time with in future.
It is painful to leave a house and move to a different city, and worse see strangers sitting in the porch you thought was yours. Letting go can be even more difficult if it was a person you are trying to forget. Memories can be haunting and you may blame yourself if the person left you. However, change is the only thing constant in this world and if you want to live a peaceful life learn to let go.
Letting go means you have forgiven the person and you have no ill feelings towards her. Keeping anger in your heart will only bother you as the person who left is already living a rocking life. It is you who is wallowing in self pity and maybe still waiting for the person to return.
But how can you trust a person again who hurt you in the first place. Aren’t relationships meant to nurture each other and protect us from any kind of hurt? The person who walked out on you has hurt you and had no intentions of caring about you in the first place.
Realizing your self-worth is an important step in the process of letting go. Make notes about how good you are and what great qualities you possess. Reading those notes will make you love yourself and raise your self esteem. It will also tell you how much better person you deserve than the lousy person who did not value you and left you.